I know it doesn’t make for very edgy bloggging but it’s true. I’m crazy about her and I’m in love. We are so different that you would think we would have trouble just being friends. Yet we make each other so happy….when we aren’t squabbling. It’s intense, it’s passionate, it’s connected and affectionate. It’s playful, it’s dead serious, it’s hot, sweet, cuddly and warm. In short, it’s everything that I have ever sought in a relationship. Is it perfect? No of course not. She’s not perfect, I’m not perfect and the relationship isn’t perfect. Are there moments of doubt? Absolutely, on both our parts just for different reasons. But that doesn’t change the fact that I love her. 

I grew up being made to feel like I’m an attention whore, co-dependant or somehow else deficient because every man I’ve ever met has been unable to meet my needs. Yeah, sure, it’s good for a while but not a one has ever been able or interested in sustaining the level of involvement and connection. Six months into the relationship I look up and wonder where they have gotten to and then I start second guessing myself… I must be too needy, I must be too dependent.  When in reality they are the ones who changed the dynamic in the relationship. They are the ones who went from warm, connected and affectionate to rolling over and snoring within a minute of orgasm. They are the ones who went from asking about my day to turning on the tube or sitting in front of the computer.

My beloved H and I have been involved 10 months and it does nothing but grow in intensity and connection. Is this all relationships with all women? I don’t know. But I know it’s my relationship with H. We work to make each other feel wanted and needed. We both understand that it is in the little things as well as the big things. It’s about the little affections couples share as well as making love. It’s about calling to say good morning as well as working through a problem. And it’s about stepping up to the plate when the other needs you to.  In short, responding to your partners needs, not taking them for granted.