I asked the question here. When do you know it’s time to get your back up and say “NO! That’s a hard limit!” and when it’s time to dig that much deeper into your trust for you Dom?

The answer, at least for me, is in part when your anxiety and pain is high and he doesn’t hear you, when you don’t feel that your well being comes first.  When you are on the edge and he is unwilling to step back and make sure that what ever “it” is, is good for both of you.

Now is not my time. I took him my fears and my insecurities and we talked them over. He made sure we had for the moment dispelled them. He made sure I feel safe.